[00:00:00] Episode 13. Welcome to the Aligned and Thriving podcast for ambitious female entrepreneurs where we align systems, strategies, and self for sustainable success. Hello, my name is Jada and I'm your host, and I cannot wait to dive into this week's episode. Our beliefs determine our bounties. Or in other words, what we believe about ourselves, what we think about ourselves beyond really what we think about ourselves, but the beliefs we hold about ourselves, determine the moves that we make and the moves that we make determine the bounties that we rape.
In life and in business, and this was re brought to the forefront of my mind just today. In fact, having a conversation over breakfast with my husband and talking with [00:01:00] him about his next moves and what he's been thinking about doing, uh, we own a business together. Um, which I ran as the CEO for around eight years, but I'm no longer really actively a part of, and which has been going for over 30 years now.
And he's dreaming up different ideas. He's still very passionate about that business, but he also wants to look at other, other options and other avenues to bring his genius into the world and create other income streams for our family and all of the things. And we were talking about the different options and I could see in him that the way he's thinking about himself and be below that about himself and be underneath that really are the beliefs he holds about himself.
I was gonna say potentially, but it's not really potentially most [00:02:00] definitely having him. E either not make moves or making certain moves. And in this particular situation, really holding him back from the potential of some of the options that are open to him and seeing him himself in a particular way that I kind of challenged him on saying that.
That might be how he sees himself or what he's come to believe about himself. But it's not necessarily how other people see him or what other people believe about him, nor what I believe about him, for example. And the conversation was very much aligned to much of the journey I've been through and. So many conversations that I have with un other entrepreneurs as well and my clients, and I am not an expert in [00:03:00] shifting beliefs necessarily.
I know many activities and, uh, daily practices and I have moved through shifting a multitude of beliefs and there are more to come. It's always a journey. However, what I do know is that it is our core beliefs, our underlying beliefs that really do determine what we end up doing and how we see ourselves, and therefore, that ripples out to how we conduct ourselves and what choices we make and what we're willing to put ourselves forward for, you know, and et cetera.
So it ripples out. To create our reality, like our beliefs create our reality. And so as part of this entrepreneurial journey, you might've heard people speak about, you know, that, that being an entrepreneur is [00:04:00] like self-development on steroids. It really is. It is such a journey. And it's not. It's not for everybody.
I know for a fact it's definitely for me, and if you find it challenging at times this whole journey and wanna shy away from it, that is so normal and it's, I think what I'm really, really wanting to share as part of this is that it's so normal and it's so necessary to move through these things. We are our biggest asset and we are our biggest block.
And we can lean into that, both of those things. And we have to lean into both, uh, to be able to progress, to be able to take the actions that are aligned with creating the business and therefore the life that we really desire. And so, when it comes to our beliefs, how we think about ourselves, what I wanna encourage you to [00:05:00] do, if you are feeling.
Well, at any stage really, if you wanna get to the next level, if you're wanting to move to the next level in your business, or if you're feeling stuck, or if you're wondering why you know things aren't flowing more for you, or if you are, you know, if business isn't what you want it to be, and you're wondering why, one of the areas is to dig into your beliefs.
This is so, so important, and it does require some digging. You know, really common ones that might be layered deep underneath things is that you're not worthy or you're not good enough, or you don't deserve, you know, more success, more money, whatever it might be. Uh, I know for me, uh, when I've done some work really digging into this, uh, around, coming up to a couple of years ago now, I discovered some beliefs that I had [00:06:00] no idea they were the things that were going to come up when I did some work with another friend and coach and holistic men business mentor Jessica Reed, uh, and we did some sessions.
Trying to really get into, or not trying to diving deep into underlying beliefs that were really holding me back from stepping into my full potential and stepping into where I wanted to go. And it was quite surprising really to me. Well, surprising at first, but then unsurprising once, once I really, you know, thought about it and felt into it, the beliefs that came.
Up and they weren't directly related to worthiness or ability. And some of the ones I just mentioned, for example, they were two big ones. One that I am not a happy person. That was kind of kind of hard to swallow and took some working through. [00:07:00] But actually it made so much sense when I dug into a whole lot of familial things.
My background, you know, the way that in really, that I saw myself, because we have this, I guess, you know, front end, even to ourselves, like we have this persona, I guess, or public persona, but we even, I think, have a persona. To ourselves or who, who we want to be being or who we think we are again, who we think we are, who we believe ourselves to be, unless we dig really underneath that to discover what is really causing all of that.
And it's not to say that I wasn't at all happy or that I didn't have happy moments, or that I was actually moving through life unhappy. No. However, I wasn't in, I guess, as the full happiness that I could be, and there was this [00:08:00] actual deep core belief, this subconscious belief that I was not a happy person, which may sound kind of bizarre if you know me, but really it was very true.
And digging into that belief and following. That guidance and doing the work to move through it was hugely life changing for me, and it's still a journey. But I've been able to move through that and let it go. And I no longer have that belief. And that has changed many things. It has flowed on to many areas of my life to release that belief.
Now when we come across these beliefs, we have a choice. We have a choice to hold onto them. 'cause they're probably serving us in some way. Or we have a choice to let them go, and maybe you need help with that and there are people who can support you with finding those beliefs and letting those beliefs go.[00:09:00]
But it is a choice and a decision to dig into them, and it's not very comfortable, and it is a choice to move through them and to let them go. Another big one for me, interestingly, has been around feeling. Intelligent, feeling smart enough, feeling academic. This has been an interesting one and to be honest with you, it's one I'm still working through and it's one that more recently came up with my mentors and.
It stems from, and many of our beliefs stem from our experience, oftentimes from our childhood, from our early years, especially from, you know, up until around seven years old. But also our life experience and the way in which we have experienced things or the feedback that we have received and. [00:10:00] Knowing that this has stemmed from, for me, uh, my background in really struggling in school when I was around seven.
When I moved schools and I enjoyed school up until that point, but uh, when my parents split up, we moved completely to a different state and we went to a new school and I was really struggling and I had a whole lot of issues with, with school and with the teacher, and I didn't like school. I never wanted to go to school.
Uh, I was struggling to learn to read, uh, which made me feel really silly and stupid, and definitely the opposite of smart and intelligent and academic and all of the things. And because of what was being reflected back to me because I couldn't do these certain things, I either took on feeling that or was told those [00:11:00] things.
Not from my home environment, but from that school environment or that was my interpretation of those things. And I ended up, uh, my mom ended up taking me out of school. I ended up homeschooling and more so unschooling, uh, and was very against doing any very formal school schoolwork because I had a big block around it.
I had a, a big block around thinking that I wasn't capable, thinking that I was. Stupid, really. And of course now I know that that is far from the case. However, that still creeps in as this kind of deep, deep belief. It's one that I'm working on at the moment. I know intellectually and beyond intellectually that I'm not stupid, that I'm not any of those things, and that I am very clever and very smart and very capable, and I have proven that over and over and over again.
I have however [00:12:00] tended to learn things differently to others. I've gone about learning the things I need to know differently to others. I have always learned what I needed to know along the way as I've needed to learn it. But underpinning and underlying my whole journey there has still been. This deep seated belief from back in childhood that I'm not smart enough, that I'm not very intelligent, that I'm not very academic because I didn't match the academic or the school environment, or I would be given, you know, books with exercises to do as part of my home homeschooling, and I would read the maths question.
And I didn't understand it. And then my mom would explain it to me in a different way, and I would absolutely understand it. And then I would get so frustrated and say, why do they write it this way? Why don't they just write it, you know, in a different way? Then I would understand it. I can [00:13:00] do it. I just don't get it in the way it's being.
Put in the textbook. And so those beliefs repeatedly when faced with that and feeling like I was different from other people and et cetera, cemented in this idea that I wasn't academic or this feeling and this belief for myself, that I wasn't academic, that I wasn't intelligent, that I wasn't smart. Even though as I went through life clearly repeatedly, I also proved the opposite.
Uh, doing so many things, moving through different roles, taking on new positions. I started working full-time when I was 16. I moved through different positions, uh, within a dance studio and ended up, you know, coordinating all of the teachers and supporting with curriculum creation and. Learning. You know, if I needed to learn to type, I taught myself to type, or I did the course.
If I needed to learn how to, uh, do video marketing, I went and I [00:14:00] found a course and I learned how to do video marketing. When I needed to know how to do any particular skill, I would go and I would find it, and I would learn it generally through action. That's how I learn best. And it's been through mentoring and conversations and digging into myself where I have had reflected back to me, oh my gosh, Jada, like you are one of the most intelligent people that, that we know.
Or getting the feedback, you know, you're so smart, Jada. And that's all well and good. That's great. And you can go, oh, thank you. But unless I believe it, truly, it really doesn't matter what other people say. It matters what we believe about ourselves. And that's why what we believe about ourselves is what is going to create our reality.
It's going to create the moves that we make because if we have beliefs about ourselves. [00:15:00] That are holding us back from making the moves that are a match for our desires, it's going to be very hard to make those moves. It's very gonna be very hard for us to stand up in our full power if we don't truly believe or if we have beliefs that are not a match for that version of ourselves.
And so through a lot of rewiring our subconscious, it's a lot of spending time, getting to know ourselves, digging into ourselves, layer upon layer, peeling back the onion layers, listening. Listening to ourselves, listening to our thoughts, listening to the repetitions, watching the repeated patterns that happen.
Listening to what others say, feeling if it feels comfortable or uncomfortable when they say those things. Noticing when really deep down inside our little voice or [00:16:00] that thought or that belief inside us is contradictory even to maybe what we theoretically or, you know, psychologically understand. Or think about ourselves even.
It's the difference between what we might even be thinking mentally versus what we truly believe deep down in our subconscious, in our conscious mind. We can first of all, uh, you know, take in those ideas and move towards those beliefs, but if we don't actually take those beliefs into our subconscious and make them a subconscious belief, our actions won't really line up.
Because our actions stem from our subconscious beliefs. So this is where it's so important to find, find those core beliefs. Check if those core beliefs are a match for the person you wanna be, the life you wanna lead, the business that you wanna run. And if they're not doing the [00:17:00] work, finding the support to let those beliefs go.
And replacing them with new beliefs that are a match for who you want to be, the life you want to live, and the business that you want to lead. Because our beliefs create our reality. Our beliefs are the things that drive our, our moves, and it's our moves that make things happen. It's through action. It's not through thinking about it, it's not through.
Desiring it. Yes, we need to desire it. Yes, we need to picture it, but we need to make those moves. It's the actions we take and our actions truly, our daily actions are driven by our core, core beliefs. So this is your invitation. To check in on your beliefs, and I would highly encourage you to get support in [00:18:00] finding underlying core beliefs because we don't always know what they are.
I've mentioned one here that I really didn't realize was a core belief that I had at all. And the ripple on effect of finding it and letting it go and replacing it has been life changing and there have been others as well. I just gave a, an example of one and then another one that has been being found and dug out gradually over time to realize what kind of core belief it really, truly has been for me, and to start to do that work to let it go.
You can either work with someone to help you find it, let it go and replace it with a new supportive one more quickly or otherwise, you've gotta do very repetitive work to re release it and replace, because unless you release [00:19:00] it, there's no point in just adding new beliefs. We have to release the beliefs that are not supporting us as well.
There are daily practices you can do around that. Things like. Writing your new self image script, for example, and making sure that you read that. But this is more, um, the part of replacing the actual finding and the letting go of those beliefs is. Either through that soul searching, that time with yourself, that journaling, that digging into those feelings or why something is not a match truly, or those really niggly thoughts that maybe are uncomfortable.
Those feelings that come up that we sometimes suppress and we wanna hide them, and we don't wanna believe that, but really it is our true belief. You can do that through lots of time with yourself and digging into that, or you can reach out and you can get support. I have two beautiful friends who are absolutely incredible that help with this in different [00:20:00] ways.
Dr. Sasha Lenko is one, she is a psychologist. She works with entrepreneurs, with your mind design and mind iq, and really understanding your belief system and being able to shift that and another beautiful, amazing. Holistic business mentor and holistic therapist, Jessica Reed. I've mentioned them before on this podcast.
They are two people I have worked with and highly recommend. You can do this through things like EFT. There's a lot of different things that you can use to support yourself. And I've also done a lot of work through Bob Proctor's teaching around this as well. So there are many ways that you can go about this, but really what I wanted to do in this episode is to plant the seed for you to understand how important your beliefs are and to share a little bit around my journey with beliefs, which is always ongoing and likely will always be.
Because it's going to [00:21:00] be that ongoing journey of evolution and which beliefs do I still hold and do they still serve me for the version that I want to be in this world as I evolve and grow. So if this has sparked something for you and I hope it has, please reach out to me and share what it might have sparked.
Maybe you've related to something that I've shared. Maybe it's kind of sparked, Hmm. Maybe this is a belief for me that I just need to dig into some more. If you want to find out some more about how I've gone about this or, or people I recommend, reach out to me as well. Let's have this conversation some more, because this is the real work of being an entrepreneur.
This is the deep staff that will support you in creating the business that you want. Through aligning yourself with being a match for that. [00:22:00] This is the important, the deep, the hard, the uncomfy, and the really rewarding work. In fact, it's the part that we need to focus so much on if we want to go to that next level.
If we wanna be that next level entrepreneur, have that next level business. This is what's required. It's not just the next best strategy, it's much more of this kind of thing. So I hope this has been helpful. I hope it sparked something. If you'd like support, reach out. And here's to you. Aligning your beliefs, your true, true deep beliefs, the ones that might be a little uncomfortable to dig into, to letting those ones go if they no longer serve you, and replacing them with ones that do so that the beliefs that you hold about yourself are a match with the moves that you need to make to create the life and the business that you desire.
Thanks so much for joining [00:23:00] me for this episode, and I look forward to sharing more with you next week.
